How To Make Someone Have A Crush On You
We’ve all been there… crushing on someone who doesn’t even know we exist! Whilst being in love is awesome, when the feelings aren’t reciprocated, it can feel like your heart is on fire, burning like a bonfire in Hell!
So what are you to do? Is there anything you can do?
Well there are, in fact, ways to make your crush take notice of you, and we’ll share some tips in this article. Nothing is guaranteed, of course, and the effectiveness of the tips will depend on a few factors. These include, but are not limited to:
Are you actually in your crush’s life and not just some random person they’ve never met, who’s stalking them from afar? If the latter, you’re in the wrong place, buddy. I can’t help you (though a shrink might be able to).
This one might seem obvious to you, but it’s not to everyone. Put simply, your crush needs to be attracted to people of your sex. I’m sure you’re awesome and all, but you’re not going to “turn” anyone.
Although you and/or your crush being single isn’t a prerequisite for getting them to like you, it does make your job a whole lot easier, and you get to sleep peacefully, knowing you’re not a homewrecker.
Are you friends already, and know each other well? Work colleagues who chat regularly in the canteen? Or are you a hot gardener who comes to take care of their lawn a couple of times a week? Connection, like proximity, is important, as it determines how your crush sees you now, and how they’ll see you in the future.
Will a future relationship with your crush make sense in the world? No one wants to take part in anything illicit; if being with you would plunge them into a name-sullying scandal, they’re likely not going to entertain your shameless flirting.
Now that that’s out the way, let’s get down to the tips.
12 Tips to Get Your Crush to Like You Back
1. Maintain Eye Contact
The eyes are the windows to the soul, and if you want your crush to know what’s in your heart and soul, you actually need to look at them. But don’t make it weird – you’re trying to get them to fall for you, not fear you!
The famous “stare then quickly look away” technique works well, and communicates what you usually can’t with words.
2. Smile a Lot
A nice smile can brighten up a person’s day. If the smile is aimed at your crush, and it’s done often enough, they’ll start to really notice you, and eventually smile back.
Warning: Not everyone has a nice smile. If you’ve been told you look creepy when you smile, it’s probably best you skip this tip.
3. Make Them Laugh
Everyone likes to laugh. When we’re old and gray, and our looks (if we ever had any) have long faded, having a funny partner around to make us giggle will be priceless.
When people are choosing a long-term mate, this is one of the traits they routinely look for. So if you’re the funny guy or gal that makes your crush burst out laughing every time you open your mouth, you might bring yourself one step closer to stealing their heart.
Warning: Don’t make them laugh too much, though. If you become the office clown, no one will take you seriously. And then you’ll end up miserable and alone, just like Pennywise.
4. Dress Well
This goes without saying, but you should always aim to look your best when you know your crush will be around. Don’t ever get caught off guard wearing stained sweatpants, with sleep in your eyes, because this is exactly how they’ll remember you, no matter how many times they’ve seen you dressed up.
5. Smell Nice
The right scent can make a person drool all over themselves. Wear pleasant-smelling perfume or cologne – ideally a softer, calmer scent for women, and a harder, rugged scent for men.
The olfactory sense is a powerful one, and a nice scent can achieve what words and aesthetics cannot. Your scent says a lot more about you than you realize. With the right perfume/cologne, you can hypnotize, calm, gain trust, appear more feminine or masculine, more powerful, and so much more.
So choose wisely, and wear it often. Because aromas stay with us; they’re linked to our memories. Wanna stay in someone’s thoughts even when you’re not around? Smell unforgettable (in a good way).
You’re effectively auditioning for the part of your crush’s significant other, so it’s imperative that you show how good of a listener you are.
Talking too much is a big turn-off; you won’t learn anything new about your crush, and you’ll come off as conceited. Listening, on the other hand, makes you seem interested in them, and they’ll look at you favorably.
Listening also makes the next tip way easier.
7. Show an Interest in Their Hobbies
You can fake it, or you can learn to love the things they enjoy. Either way, once you discover what some of their hobbies are, and you make an attempt to learn more about them, this will earn you major points with your crush.
Minimal effort is required here. If your crush likes skiing, spend an hour learning some common skiing terminology and watching a couple of YouTube clips from the Winter Olympics.
Is your crush a fan of those cheesy dancing shows populated by z-list celebrities whose careers have gone down the toilet? Suffer through an episode, then shock them with your knowledge. They’ll admire you for it.
8. Do Something Nice For Someone
Everyone loves a benevolent person. They give you that warm, fuzzy feeling, especially when they help people without making a huge deal about it.
The recipient of your kindness doesn’t necessarily have to be your crush, just someone connected to them. A mutual friend, their family member, or a colleague, perhaps.
Ideally you’ll be benevolent all the time, not just when your crush is watching, but you should be particularly kind and generous when their eyes are on you. I mean, that’s not technically how benevolence works, but who cares?!
9. Be Unavoidable
For someone to develop feelings for you, they actually have to, you know, see you. The more, the better.
That’s why you should try to be everywhere. Now, striking a balance between sweet crush and crazy stalker will be important here: the former might get the guy/girl; the latter gets a restraining order filed against them.
Be natural with it. Don’t go anywhere you wouldn’t normally go. If you’re a die-hard vegan and your crush frequents a local seafood restaurant, you showing up there will look suspicious, and brings you one step closer to that restraining order we talked about before.
10. Give Compliments
Paying compliments costs nothing. It’s also a great way to subtly show your crush that you’re interested in them.
By paying them regular compliments about the way they dress, smell, their intelligence, etc. you’ll flatter your way into their pants heart. Sorry, typo.
Many people make the mistake of being a little too inconspicuous with their feelings, and their crush may go months, sometimes years, without noticing a thing. That’s why it’s imperative that you flirt, and do so only with them, so they know you’re not “like that with everyone”.
You have to show them you’re interested, because it might not always be obvious. They might mistake your flirting as you being friendly.
Flirting can also put you on their radar in a way they’ve never considered you before. Maybe they don’t think you’re obtainable? Well, flirting takes care of that.
12. Resolve conflicts well
Conflict resolution is something we all regularly experience. Your ability to handle conflicts well is one that shouldn’t be minimized, and one any prospective partner will look upon favorably.
Again, treat life like an audition: a person who can keep the peace is admirable, and someone most sane people would want to be in a relationship with.
So talking Jill out of attacking Jack with a sledgehammer will go a long way in making you irresistible to your crush.
Attraction is a beast with a mind of its on, and, when all is said and done, there’s really not much we can do to force someone to fall for us.
That said, with human nature being what it is, these tips can, have, and do work, but only with people who are at least a little receptive to them. I’ve seen it with my own eyes (sadly it’s never worked for me. I’m clearly doing something wrong).
If your crush is the type that’s receptive, open, and available, then you actually stand a chance of having your feelings reciprocated.