Signs He Thinks You Might Be The One
When it comes to matters of the heart, men are like an open book… a book that’s written in ancient Sumerian! Put simply, they’re impossible to read or decode, because unlike women, they don’t wear their hearts on their sleeves.
This means that, for a woman dating one of these walking enigmas, it can be difficult to know how he really feels about you. No matter how much time has passed, you can’t be sure if the guy you’ve been spending all this time (and all your good years) with truly loves you, or simply enjoys your company.
So if you’re sitting around waiting for him to outright declare his undying love for you, and change all of his passwords to your name and date of birth, you’ll be waiting a long time.
That said, there are a few telltale signs men inadvertently give when they think they’ve found their dream girl – the woman with whom they hope to spend the rest of their days. Study them, ingest them, and learn to spot them.
6 Signs Your Boyfriend Thinks You’re “The One”
1. He Confides in You
Confiding is his way of showing that he’s invested in the relationship. If he thinks you’re a temporary fixture in his life, he won’t trust you with important details. The last thing any man wants is for his bitter ex to spill dirt that he told her in confidence.
So he’ll tell you about that time when he was eight and stole a pack of gum from the store. Or about the crush he had on his cousin when he was ten.
Not just the embarrassing stuff, either. No siree, you’ll hear all of it (so much, in fact, that you’ll be begging him to shut up). You’ll learn about his hopes and dreams, uncertainties and fears, the little things that worry him, and those weird and wacky things that make him happy.
This isn’t so much about his need to offload as it is about showing you he trusts you.
2. He Introduces You to His Friends and Family
A man who isn’t serious about you won’t be in a rush to introduce you to his nearest and dearest. If he thinks you’ll be gone by next summer, you’re not meeting his folks; and no, Grandma won’t be teaching you her famous apple pie recipe.
He doesn’t want to run the risk of his family falling in love with someone he doesn’t love himself.
You should note, though, that being introduced to the people closest to him isn’t in and of itself a sign that he thinks you’re The One. You could simply be The Current One, or The One Before The Actual One. Sometimes men will bring women to meet the family just because it’s been a while and they started to think he didn’t like girls!
The frequency of the encounters and importance of the events are key here. Do you meet them regularly? Does he encourage you to spend time with his sister(s) and mother? Are you his plus one to major family events? Those are the things to look out for.
3. He Wants to Know Everything About You
If he’s planning on spending the rest of his life with you, he’ll need to know what he’s getting himself into. The last thing he wants is for all your crazy to show itself a few months into the marriage. He’ll feel blindsided.
So, he’ll want to know all there is to know about you. The things that make you happy, the things that make you tick, what motivates you, etc.
But it doesn’t just stop there, it goes deeper than that. Things like your past and your family reveal more about you than your words ever will. Did you have a string of failed relationships with bad boys before you met him? Is your mother an addict?
Any man who’s serious about you needs to know if there’s a chance his future mother-in-law will steal his laptop and sell it for crack!
4. Your Relationship Is Secure After a Fight
Arguments will happen, that’s just a part of life. How you resolve things afterwards, however, will determine your future as a couple. More importantly, how he handles the resolution says a lot about how he feels about you.
Men are fully aware that women can be impossibly stubborn (understatement of the century). A man knows that, if he wants peace, he’ll have to give in. A man who thinks you’re worth conceding to and appeasing, has already made up his mind about your place in his life.
They say you never really know someone until you see them handle conflict. Well, you can be pretty sure that your man thinks the world of you if, after a fight, he doesn’t hold anything against you, forgives you easily, and actively tries to make things right.
5. He’s Vulnerable Around You
For a man to be vulnerable around you, he has to be sure of two things:
- you won’t go blabbing to the whole world
- you won’t laugh in his face.
It’s that trust thing again, you see.
Men have a tough time showing their sensitive side, as society doesn’t encourage it. Crying, feeling insecure, expressing fear, those are the kinds of things they usually keep to themselves. So, if he’s terrified of heights and you force him to ride the elevator to the top of the Eiffel Tower, unless he truly trusts you, he won’t scream when he gets up there (even though he’s screaming inside).
If you’re a keeper, you’ll soon discover every insecurity and weakness he’s ever had, and he trusts that you won’t use them against him. When you’re watching a tearjerker movie, don’t be surprised if he starts weeping as much as you are when the guy finally gets the girl.
6. He Makes Plans for a Future With You
Nothing screams “you’re the one, let’s make some babies” like frequent discussions about, and plans for, the future: how many kids you’ll have, whose features they’ll inherit, what school they’ll go to, and which family members you’ll abandon them with when you get sick of them… stuff like that.
When you’re dating a man who sees you as nothing more than an interim girlfriend, a placeholder, if you will, until the real thing comes along, he won’t broach these subjects. But a man who pictures you in his future (as his wife, not his stalker ex-girlfriend) will be happy to fantasize about these things with you.
So, has your boyfriend been more keen than usual lately to discuss permanent decisions, like buying a house together. Has he created an Amazon Wishlist entitled “Gifts For My Future Children With [whatever your name is]”? If so, he probably thinks you’re The One.
The only way you can know for sure what’s in his heart is if you come right out and ask him. He could lie, of course, but if he’s been showing some or all of the above mentioned signs, you’ll have a better idea of how he really feels.
Pay particular attention to your boyfriend’s age, too, as men who are getting on in years and have accomplished their career goals are more likely to display these signs. Settling down and securing a good woman becomes a priority for them. They won’t want to waste time with unsuitable women; they’ll usually want you to know they’re serious about you.