What turns women off in relationships

What Turns A Woman Off In A Relationship?

What Turns A Woman Off In A Relationship?

I’m going to assume that if you’ve clicked on this post, you’re worried about putting off women. Or for some reason, your relationships never seem to work out. If this is you… congratulations! You’ve come to the right place.

Turnoffs are probably the biggest cause of relationship failure, or the failure for relationships to start at all. There are all sorts of turn-offs and turn-ons. Truly, the list is never-ending. And it varies per person. Something that may turn you off might very well turn someone else on.

That being said, there are also some pretty universal turnoffs. Many of these may seem pretty obvious, but you’d be surprised how clueless a lot men can be when it comes to this type of thing.

If you count yourself among that oblivious lot, here are 14 things that turn women off.

1. Flirting with another woman in front of her

What turns a woman off in a relationship

So, let’s say you and your lady are out at a nice restaurant. The waitress is cute and starts flirting with you. More than likely she’s only flirting to get a good tip, but who really knows.

Thinking that you’ve still got it, you might have the urge to flirt back, shoot your shot with the cutie before you. Why not, huh?

But what would your girlfriend think? I’ll tell you: she’ll hate it. You’ll be in major trouble and might not have a girlfriend by the end of the night. Rightfully so!

There’s never a reason to make another woman feel more attractive or important than your girlfriend.

2. Forgetting an important day – like her birthday

This should go without saying. Yet, it still happens. DO NOT FORGET HOLIDAYS.

Birthdays. Family gatherings. Weird anniversaries of trivial little events that only she remembers. They might seem pointless to you, but they mean the world to her.

Whatever it is, do your absolute best to remember. Write it down if you have to. Not remembering something important, like her birthday, will be seen as not caring, and that’s guaranteed to turn her off.

So, get yourself a good calendar, jot those important dates down, let her see that you’ve jotted them down (you’ll score bonus points), and ensure you’re not an insensitive, soon-to-be-single jerk.

3. Not listening to her

What turns a woman off in a relationship

This is a big one. At the end of the day, everyone just wants to be heard. No woman wants to feel like she’s talking to herself, because what would she need you for?

Take the time to actively listen to what she’s telling you, even if you find the information boring. It’s clearly not boring to her, and your attentiveness will show that you care. You likely talk her ear off about crap she couldn’t care less about too, so return the favor.

4. Cheating

Another one that should go without saying. Of course cheating is a huge turnoff! Never, in the history of life, has any woman ever been turned on by a guy cheating on her. It doesn’t happen. The bottom line: just don’t cheat.

5. Never cleaning – the house or himself

What turns a woman off in a relationship

Good hygiene and cleanliness are imperative. If you’re gross, or your place is gross, or you make her place gross… goodbye! Major turnoff.

Women don’t want a child they need to clean up after. A man that does dishes unprompted, like a normal adult, is one of the sexiest things ever.

There’s also nothing more unattractive than having to remind someone to bathe. You might be able to fool her with the broken shower lie once, but sooner or later, presumably when your stench starts making her eyes water, she’ll distance herself from you.

Don’t go down in history as her filthy ex!

6. Expecting typical “housewife” duties

This one piggybacks off of point five. The 1950s have been over for quite a while now. It’s time to man up and help around the house.

No woman wants to (or should) work 40 hours a week AND do all the housework so your lazy butt “can rest after a long day”. No. Chores are equal.

7. Chewing with your mouth open

What turns a woman off in a relationship

Manners!!! No one wants to see gross globs of food turning to mush in your mouth. If she wanted to watch an animal eat, she would go to the zoo!

And if you need more of an explanation than that, I don’t know what else to tell you.

8. Picking “the boys” over her

Look, we all love our friends. They’re a welcome relief from the rollercoaster ride that is modern dating. It’s perfectly fine to have guy time; she, in turn, gets time with the girls.

The issue arises when you constantly choose to hang with your buddies over hanging out with her.

You need to set aside special time for her that doesn’t overlap with guy-time, because no woman wants to take second place on your list of priorities.

But hey, if you love your friends so much that you can’t tear yourself away from them, there’s good news: you’ll soon be single, then you’ll have plenty of time to hang with them.

9. Lying/withholding information

What turns a woman off in a relationship

Lying in a relationship is a dangerous game. I mean, it’s one thing if you are planning a surprise. That is the ONE and ONLY time it’s okay to withhold information.

It’s completely different if you’re just purposely deceiving her, and doing so regularly.

Eventually she’ll find out. The truth always comes out in the end. And when it does, you’re going to have a hard time.

10. Treating her like she’s your mother

This is one of the greatest sins a man can commit. Never, under any circumstances, try to replace your mother with your girlfriend.

The relationship you have with your mother is (hopefully) platonic love; with your partner, again hopefully, romantic love. Do not mix these two things.

Don’t expect motherly duties from a woman whose bed you’re sharing. Because eww! (I’m sure there’s a word for people like this, but I’m afraid to google it…)

Girlfriends/wives/partners should not take a mother’s place as your nurturer or provider. Major turnoff, and definitely a huge red flag.

11. No ambition

What turns a woman off in a relationship

A man that isn’t going anywhere and doesn’t strive for better will soon become a hindrance to a woman who is and does. (If she’s just as unambitious as you, however, you’re a match made in lazy heaven.)

The problem here is that you’ll soon become dead weight to her, and eventually she’ll either have to drop you or drag you along out of sympathy, neither of which is healthy for any relationship.

12. Being calm when she’s freaking out

Women are emotional creatures, and when they’ve had enough, they like to know that they’re not the only one’s suffering (equality and all that jazz). So watching you be sensible and reasonable when she’s losing her mind won’t go down well, believe me. It will only annoy her further.

There must be a balance, however. Which brings me to the next point…

13. An overly emotional man

What turns a woman off in a relationship

You’re not a robot, I get that, but leave the emotional stuff to her. She needs to know that at least one person in the relationship can keep their cool.

The first time she sees you cry will be monumental, and she’ll love you for letting her know that you’re human. But keep that silliness up and she’ll start looking at you differently, the way she would something icky she passes on the street.

It’s not cute, it’s certainly not sexy, and like it or not, she’ll see you as weak.

14. Too much togetherness – smothering

You might be madly in love with her, and she with you, but that gives you no right to smother her. She doesn’t want to see your face everywhere she looks; she doesn’t believe that 23 hours of her day should be spent in your presence.

Give her plenty of space so that she can miss you.


You’ve probably realized that some of these points contradict each other. Yeah, well that’s women for you – walking contradictions.

But they’re worth the trouble (mostly). If you aim to be the best version of yourself, someone you yourself would be happy to date, you can’t go wrong.